Pastor Lloyd

A question came in to me that I reworded and changed names to protect any identities but I felt that the nature of this issues is important to address.

Hi Pastor Pulley,

My friend is getting married and I am in his wedding. He was planning to have an event after the rehearsal dinner for the guys and though it was told me that they were going to watch a decent movie together I got wind that there may be some other risqué goings on influenced by his other friends.   I told him i think I will go home and turn in early in preparation for his big day tomorrow.

I got the strong impression in our conversation that he would be having strippers over, or a lot of drinking. I think I made the right decision in not going. Do you have any advice for me or anything that might help with confirmation?

Also a close family member even told me to go because thinks they think that i need to go and try different things, and have different experiences while I’m young and that a bachelors party is just what people do.

I value your opinion, as you can imagine its a back and forth battle in my head. As of now I have decided to not go and actually I’m about to go to sleep in prep for the wedding. At first I did not want to feel like I’m missing out, but then when I think about what I’m probably missing out on, it seems that it might not be so bad to miss out, if missing out will honor God.

So i guess the real issue is does it honor God to go to bachelor’s party if you have the sense that there will be strippers? Because once there it will be hard not to lust, and your flesh will want to participate.

My Answer: 

Great Move Jim!!

2Co 6:17* Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.”

1Sa 2:30 … those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed.

2Ch 16:9 For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him. ….

The opposite of holy is common. The very fact everybody does it is the very reason you, who are called of the Lord, should stay clear of it because you are His own.

Even Newsweek magazine, as liberal as they are, featured this week a book review of The Pornification of a Generation by Kevin Scott revealing 90% of teen boys have seen filth that adults have never seen and what it is doing to the American male. When the world thinks this nonsense has gone too far how much more should we his people?

http://www.newsweek.com/2008/10/07/the-pornification-of-a-generation.html

So good move!

At the same time it is not unusual to feel a sense of loss and feeling all alone when you do make the right decision.

I recall a time I was sorely tempted as a young believer in college with a beautiful girl near my dorm and she invited me in to her place and I had perfect opportunity to be with her.  I waked away by the strength of the Lord but when I saw her with another guy the next day, part of me was torn as the enemy was chiding me and mocking me as to what I missed out on. Now I have no regrets!

Though our hearts are the Lords, our flesh is still very much attracted to this world but we must honor the Lord and He will indeed honor us.

Lloyd